Journey To Paid Speaking Gigs with Charles Clark
If you have a story to tell and are trying to find ways to make money sharing it, the Journey to Paid Speaking Gigs podcast is the answer. Listeners of the podcast are excited to discover how to find their voice to generate income and develop their speaking skills with Charles Clark. Charles and his Thrive Tribe team are among the world's leading coaches who are experts in helping speakers utilize their gift and get paid to do it but most importantly are passionate about helping the silent speak even if their voice shakes.
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Journey To Paid Speaking Gigs with Charles Clark
Jill Monaco - Inspiring Love as a Christian Speaker
Jill Monaco is a Christian speaker, life coach, podcaster, and author. She is the founder and CEO of Jill Monaco Ministries, a 501(c)3 nonprofit that encourages people to pursue the presence of God and find freedom in Christ. As a speaker, she captures the attention of her audience with her engaging faith-filled and transparent stories. On her podcast, The Jill Monaco Show, Jill and her guests explore God's teachings. Her goal is to inspires listeners to love God, love themselves, and love others. Her first book The Freedom Coach Model has reached #1 on the Amazon bestseller list.
Key Takeaways
- Finding a way to be thankful for things in life and looking at the bigger picture when you can is often very beneficial in the long run.
- Certain life experiences can be wide ranging and seemingly irrelevant to your current pursuits. However, the lessons and skills you garner from them can still be incredibly useful.
- Everyone on their journey can share where they're at. Use what you have right now. There is a process to get where you want to be.
- Jill shares how it is important for her to make time with God in order to keep her humble, grounded, and energized.
- Listen about a day in the life of Jill and what her speaker routine is like.
Memorable Quotes
- "Sometimes you need that salt in your life to show who you are truly meant to be." - Charles Clark
- "The preparation is just as important as the performance." - Jill Monaco
- "You don't have to be 100% healed or secure for God to use your story." - Jill Monaco
- "Rest, stop, and recharge." - Charles Clark
- "I have to work hard, but then I have to rest. And in the rest, that's where the grace is." - Charles Clark
- "An imitation of somebody else is never as great as an authentic you." - Jill Monaco
Episode Resources & Links
Jill Monaco
Website: jillmonaco.com
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jillmonaco/
Instagram + Twitter: jillmonaco | Facebook: jillmonacoministries
Charles Clark
Website: https://thecharlesclark.com
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/charlesclarkusa/
Instagram + Facebook: @thecharlesclark
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00:00:01 Charles Clark
Welcome to the journey paid speaking gigs podcast.
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Here we bring on guests in the speaking world to uncover how to find your voice as a speaker, get paid speaking engagements, and develop your speaking skills.
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I'm your host.
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Charles Clark.
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Mental health and resilience speaker and today I'm having a conversation with Christian Speaker Jill Monaco.
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If you like what you hear today.
00:00:20 Charles Clark
Check out the journey to paid speaking gigs Academy on my website thecharlesclark.com/apply, where you going to learn everything that you.
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To know about how to create a successful speaking business, it's time to rise and thrive.
00:00:34 Charles Clark
Alright, let's welcome you to the show.
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Hey, Charles, I'm so glad to be.
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Yes, I'm so excited that you're here and you know, let's get this party started, right?
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You know, I'm ask you a question.
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Let the Thrive tribe.
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Know who is Jill?
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Joe Monaco, you know, I like to be a little mysterious, but, you know, considering you're asking me that question, you know, number one, what you just said, I just, I love Jesus.
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And I didn't always didn't until my.
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30S and everything I do is just about being the best version of who he.
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Created me to be.
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I love just self improvement.
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I am a junkie for anything that helps me learn who.
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God is and who I am and.
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And how to love others?
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Well, you know, so I'm a obviously speaker life.
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Coach, a podcaster, you know all the author.
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All the things.
00:01:26 Charles Clark
Yeah, man, that, that, that's incredible.
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You know, we were talking behind the scenes a little earlier.
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And you shared.
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Hey, I'm so sorry to hear about your your injury that happened and you know the the thing that I was really sharing with you is that I'm, I'm thankful for it.
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I'm thankful that I I had that moment in my life because I never would be where I am today and I think a lot of times we don't see that.
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Bigger picture to be thankful for certain things in our life now.
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Certain things in our life.
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They're just really unfortunate.
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And sometimes we just don't see the lesson in that.
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But for me, I did see the blessing behind it all.
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And maybe for you, can you reflect on a time in your life where.
00:02:11 Charles Clark
Your life pivoted, you know, I know you were a a singer and something happened there.
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What was?
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What was the beauty in all that?
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Or was there any beauty in in in what you went through to to become the person you are today?
00:02:27 Jill Monaco
Yeah, I can relate to.
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The injury and the area.
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That you feel felt like.
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This is my lane this.
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Is what I'm called to.
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I'm going to do the rest of my life and I was a professional singer.
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My degree was musical theater.
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That's all I ever did.
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From the time I was at.
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Good and graduate college and one of my first jobs out of college was singing backups for Perry Como.
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Maybe the older generations going to remember.
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Who he is, but.
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He was pretty popular in his Christmas show.
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He's like a Frank Sinatra and you know, here I'm 21 years old and I'm singing backups for this guy. I introduced him to.
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Billy Joel, like that is just.
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Such a fun.
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Story like we're on tour and and so a couple of years later I developed a system on my vocal cord and so I couldn't.
00:03:12 Jill Monaco
I can only sing a couple notes like my range was gone.
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I was a soprano and it was.
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You know, and it was like and it.
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And it wasn't like nodes, which a lot of singers get nodules.
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This was an actual cyst and and so after trying to treat it naturally, I had to go in for surgery.
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And they said the thing.
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You need to understand is you may never sing.
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Again, and I was really faced. Harry, I'm 25 years old, faced with.
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Oh my gosh, the thing I've only done all my life and.
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My identity is in that what will?
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I do.
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But I decided to take the risk because I.
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Was like what I'm doing now isn't working, so you know.
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And you're kind of when you're that young.
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You're like, let's just try it.
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You know, now that I'm older, I might have been hesitated, but had the surgery and how it really changed me is that it during that time of having to prep for it, and even after I couldn't sing.
00:04:01 Jill Monaco
For a couple of months, I couldn't talk.
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I wasn't allowed to talk.
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For a month and then I couldn't sing for a couple of months as my vocal cords healed and and even even after that, my voice wasn't the same.
00:04:04 Charles Clark
Oh man.
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It was still good, but it wasn't what it was.
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You know how it felt when you were hitting those notes and how smooth it was.
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Yeah, yeah.
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So you know it it chips away at your.
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Pride and your identity a little bit.
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And so anyway, yeah, so I did.
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I continued to tour and you?
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Know did some really.
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Amazing projects and did voiceovers and on camera.
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Marshalls and all that found other avenues, you know, to do things.
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But I think it does it create what you said.
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It makes you into the person.
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These hardships are sometimes the way that you were meant to go, but nothing is wasted like God has not wasted that time at all.
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All the skills I learned as an actor, I'm still.
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Using today, right?
00:04:55 Charles Clark
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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I'm showing up here.
00:04:58 Charles Clark
I love the fact that you said that and that is so encouraging.
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Nothing is wasted.
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No matter what you've been through in your life, you can use it and and there's two sides of all that.
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There's two sides to the story, right?
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You you can waste it if you want to or.
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Right.
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You can or you can use it and that I think that's the beautiful thing about purpose.
00:05:21 Charles Clark
When my grandma, she makes her sweet potato.
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She taught me one valuable lesson, and that was, you know, she she used all of the sweet ingredients, you know, the sweet potato, the the sugar, the the the butter.
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She's mixing it all up and she, she said to me when she was doing it.
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It just doesn't taste right.
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And then she went to the cabinet and she grabbed a.
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Some salt.
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And she added a pinch of salt in there.
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And she said this is going to bring all the flavor together and let me tell you, it was the best thing ever.
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And so I just want to encourage people out there.
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Sometimes you need that.
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Salt in your life to make.
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To show.
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Who you truly are meant to be right.
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And and you can utilize because nothing is wasted.
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You got a purpose on your life.
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And so I know there's so many speakers out there, or people who want to become speakers who are afraid to use that story, who are afraid to add that pinch of salt, that rawness to you.
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What would you tell them?
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Right.
00:06:23 Jill Monaco
Well, first thing I'd say is I get you, I mean there's pieces of my story even going back to childhood with abuse that I didn't want to tell anyone about.
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You know it was.
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I carried shame about it, or like I said, our identities wrapped up in it. And so the first thing I'd say is, you know, the time God's timing is.
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Perfect. And he's a wise.
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Master. So if you don't feel ready to Share your story yet, then from a faith-based perspective.
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I'm like what?
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Do you need to be learning and doing now until you?
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Are ready until you feel called.
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The preparation is just as important as the performance.
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If we just get out there and perform and we haven't done any of the hard work, we're going to embarrass ourselves in front of lots of people.
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So I'm always like, let me embarrass.
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Myself in front of a few people.
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I'm working it out.
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And the second thing is you don't have to be 100% healed or secure in order for God to use your story.
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And so everyone on the journey can share right where they're at.
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We look at the Psalms.
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And David, he was a hot.
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Mess, you know, I mean.
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What the fair was someone and then and and the Sheba and and God still used.
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His his family.
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Right.
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So just use.
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I think my greatest advice is.
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Just use what you got.
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Right now, right now, whatever you are, whatever you have, take one little step forward.
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And that will get you to the place you're ultimately supposed to be, or where you want to be, but nobody just arrives, nobody ends up just like what you look like on your fabulous, you know, website.
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Charles, like we don't we.
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Don't look like.
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That all the time, there's a process.
00:08:01 Charles Clark
And I think that was the thing that we kind of talked about earlier too, right?
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We think we got to.
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Look a certain way and and be someone to say my story is good.
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But like you just said, you'll where I am is enough right now.
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And when we begin to love that person you, you'll show up becomes impactful.
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Now it's not based off of the superficial validation that most people try to go for.
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You know, we're we're made with a purpose, not some price tag, not some likes.
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We've made so much more than that and and you got to see that.
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So take that one step tribe.
00:08:38 Charles Clark
I I'm really enjoying this this podcast, by the way.
00:08:40 Charles Clark
I'm like in the moment I I I've been.
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I'm liking it too.
00:08:46 Charles Clark
I've been traveling a lot these past couple of weeks.
00:08:50 Charles Clark
Well, mainly last week I just getting home, you know, we had to reschedule the podcast because my flight got canceled.
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And rushed home got caught.
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The flight had a little layover and and now we're here.
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How is managing?
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Your life when you know because you you travel around speaking you, you're in different cities.
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What what's your secret to?
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To managing yourself well, how do you keep yourself strong and available to create impact when you're on that stage?
00:09:26 Jill Monaco
Yeah, it's such a good question.
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And I think everybody's going to be wired different, right, so.
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How I do?
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It just to give a.
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A A background for me.
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First of all, I love God, so time with God I have to make time for him.
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Every week, every day, in order to just keep me humble, keep.
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Me grounded and keep me energized.
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I find that time.
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With him allows me to rest.
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I remember when I was really burnt out in one season and I was asking the Lord like I'm like, I can't do it all.
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Thank you for all.
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The opportunities am I saying yes to things I.
00:10:02 Jill Monaco
Shouldn't say yes to you.
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Know you've got to evaluate and see.
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What are the spiritual?
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Things in your life.
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What are the practical?
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What are the emotional?
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What are the physical?
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You are a, you know as a.
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Human being, we are body, soul, spirit.
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And so for me at that time it was.
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God's Angel. Everything good that you're going?
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To do is going to come from.
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A place of rest.
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And so for me, I have to build margin and rest in my time because I'm an introvert, right?
00:10:30 Jill Monaco
So extroverts, they get energized by spending more time traveling.
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I get depleted.
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So for me, I have to find that time to get re energized and then I also a second thing is as.
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Far as I'm.
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When I'm traveling and all that.
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I always make the day before and the.
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Day after speaking.
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No phone calls, no commitments.
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It just helps me get in the right mindset for the people that I'm going.
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To be sharing.
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With I will be intentional and thoughtful.
00:10:55 Charles Clark
Yeah, yeah.
00:10:57 Jill Monaco
I don't want to be rushed and exhaust.
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And then when I get home, I need to recharge because that it drains me.
00:11:04 Jill Monaco
So those are just some of the habits that I've developed that work for me.
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So all the.
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Introverts out there.
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Can go.
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I see that.
00:11:10 Charles Clark
Yeah, I I had.
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I had written some things down and and your your step processing and all of this to maintain yourself and to show up in a meaningful way is one rest right.
00:11:23 Charles Clark
Without rest we can't perform well and two is stop right.
00:11:30 Charles Clark
You know, is the difference between like.
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You know, resting and then doing nothing, right. I can find. I can find rest. It's a break, right? I take a little break, but then when there's an intentional stop, there is room for your yourself to show up, to show love for you and you know self-care. But then the recharge.
00:11:53 Charles Clark
Aspect I'm curious to know what that looks like for you.
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What's your reach?
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Large oh man, that's.
00:11:59 Jill Monaco
I love to go for walks in nature.
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You just get me into, you know, walking barefoot in the grass.
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Like just recharging, I also do some woo stuff.
00:12:09 Jill Monaco
I do red light therapy and a grounding mat so I love because again, body soul spirit.
00:12:14 Jill Monaco
Right.
00:12:14 Charles Clark
Right.
00:12:14 Jill Monaco
Like we if if we are having physical problem.
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Problems, you know, then it shows up in all kinds of areas.
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Mean cutting out.
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Let's just be practical as a health coach because I do health coaching too.
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Like it's important we don't realize how much of our our happy hormones are made in our gut and if our gut is unhealthy, we have unhealthy thoughts and people don't realize there's that.
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Body soul comma.
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So those are some things when I.
00:12:39 Speaker 3
Go to a green room.
00:12:40 Jill Monaco
Like please don't give.
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Me, sugar, you know, like I'm.
00:12:44 Jill Monaco
Very nice about it.
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But I'm like, but I always have healthy things that I bring with me because I never want the event person to feel like they.
00:12:50 Jill Monaco
Didn't provide for me, you know.
00:12:51 Charles Clark
Yeah, yeah.
00:12:52 Jill Monaco
So you just trying to be as gracious as you can request.
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And if they if they blow.
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It don't say anything.
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Just have something.
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Just have something you can do, you know.
00:13:00 Charles Clark
So so to rest stop recharge strap.
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How can you use that in your life when it when it comes to the mental, physical and spiritual so that you can tap into your best.
00:13:12 Charles Clark
I I love that I love that and I also identify with like taking that rest.
00:13:19 Charles Clark
I tell you one story that really checked me and my my faith.
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I went home.
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It was around Christmas time.
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And my wife was like, alright, just, just, just relax, you know, take a break.
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Don't bring your computer and you tell me not to bring my computer.
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You know my my whole business is on my computer.
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That is my.
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That is my.
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That is my office.
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That's my building.
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That's everything to me.
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That's my enterprise.
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And said don't worry.
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And I was like, OK, I'm gonna try to do this.
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Trying not to bring my computer.
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I brought my computer, but this you like.
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OK, don't use your computer.
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I was like, OK, I'm not gonna use my computer, so I I did not use my computer.
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And let me tell you, when I got back home.
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From my breast, I had more inquiries than I had from the the previous couple weeks by taking intentional time because you know, like I think a lot of times we get what faith is all about faith.
00:14:27 Charles Clark
We tie in this idea that faith without works is dead right?
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We say that all time and we think that that just means.
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Right.
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Alright, I gotta act all day.
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I gotta perform.
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But then there's the part of of of grace and faith, right where you do you do nothing.
00:14:44 Charles Clark
It's just on God's ability because he can see way past your point.
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And he can bless you in that in that stuff that you can't see.
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And I had to learn that.
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I have to work hard.
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But then I.
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Have to rest and in the rest, that's where the grace is.
00:15:02 Charles Clark
And so I'm just encouraged by what you're saying there.
00:15:05 Charles Clark
Like, yeah, take my rest.
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Let me take my break.
00:15:08 Charles Clark
I identify with that so much.
00:15:09 Jill Monaco
We'll perform better from a place of rest.
00:15:10 Charles Clark
Yeah, yeah.
00:15:12 Jill Monaco
Really. Will you? You're more.
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Even science shows that.
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We're more creative.
00:15:16 Jill Monaco
We're more innovative when we're getting and set to say I'm not busy.
00:15:20 Jill Monaco
I've got those busy weeks, especially prepping to speak somewhere.
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I'm all in.
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But then you got to recharge.
00:15:26 Jill Monaco
Yeah, it's really good.
00:15:27 Charles Clark
Yeah, so good.
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So what?
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What does it look like for you?
00:15:32 Charles Clark
You know, when when you're traveling, do you?
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Do you enjoy it?
00:15:37 Charles Clark
I know you said that you're a introvert, but what does that look like?
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Kind of?
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Just take me through a day.
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In a life.
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Of of Jill.
00:15:46 Charles Clark
What does that look like when you're going to a conference and and speaking at the event?
00:15:51 Jill Monaco
So leading up to it, like I said, I try and take the day before where there's no meetings.
00:15:56 Jill Monaco
Or calls but.
00:15:57 Jill Monaco
Even the few days leading up to going.
00:15:59 Jill Monaco
To a conference. I'm.
00:16:01 Jill Monaco
More of a soaker like I'll plan months in advance with maybe some notes and an outline and I really don't get my best pieces.
00:16:10 Jill Monaco
Until the night before.
00:16:13 Speaker 3
Like I don't know how many people can relate to that, but at the.
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Beginning I was like, geez, I.
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Have to speak tomorrow.
00:16:18 Speaker 3
I have no idea what I'm going to say.
00:16:20 Speaker 3
I got an outline, you know.
00:16:22 Jill Monaco
And I don't want to show up with egg on my face.
00:16:25 Jill Monaco
And one of the things I learned is if I'm being asked to speak on the topic is because I'm already an expert.
00:16:31 Jill Monaco
You know, there are.
00:16:32 Jill Monaco
They already want me.
00:16:33 Jill Monaco
And one time I was getting ready to speak on stage and I was backstage and I was so nervous.
00:16:37 Jill Monaco
This is early on in.
00:16:38 Jill Monaco
My speaking career, and it was a pretty big audience.
00:16:40 Jill Monaco
And I was like, why are you making me?
00:16:46 Speaker 3
I just didn't want to do it.
00:16:48 Speaker 3
Yeah, and and he said to me, I heard my heart.
00:16:52 Speaker 3
Joe, you are?
00:16:52 Jill Monaco
You're not auditioning.
00:16:53 Jill Monaco
You already got the job.
00:16:56 Speaker 3
Yeah, that's good.
00:16:56 Jill Monaco
And so he used that active reference that I would understand every time you've been.
00:17:01 Jill Monaco
Hired you already got it.
00:17:02 Jill Monaco
So planning and soaking I am refreshing my mind in my memory of.
00:17:07 Jill Monaco
What am I?
00:17:07 Jill Monaco
What do we really want to share?
00:17:09 Jill Monaco
What do I think is important?
00:17:10 Jill Monaco
And then the night before, like whether I've traveled that day and I'm sitting in the hotel getting ready?
00:17:15 Jill Monaco
I'm like, OK God, what else do?
00:17:17 Jill Monaco
This what is?
00:17:18 Jill Monaco
This specific audience need, if I've already shared this message, what new Nuggets do I want to give?
00:17:24 Jill Monaco
Cause we always want to bring something.
00:17:25 Jill Monaco
Fresh, right? What's going on?
00:17:26 Speaker 3
Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.
00:17:27 Jill Monaco
In the world, but also what's going on?
00:17:29 Jill Monaco
Fun and, you know to those.
00:17:31 Jill Monaco
That aren't in the faith-based world, let's call it inspired thought. OK, because I believe.
00:17:36 Jill Monaco
God loves all of us and he's always.
00:17:38 Jill Monaco
Speaking to us.
00:17:39 Jill Monaco
And so you can have an inspired thought the night before.
00:17:42 Jill Monaco
So that's kind of and then I've got my I'm old school man.
00:17:45 Jill Monaco
I have a piece of paper right, like I know I should use an iPad or whatever, you know.
00:17:49 Jill Monaco
But I can't scribble these last minute.
00:17:51 Jill Monaco
Notes on it.
00:17:52 Jill Monaco
You know or highlight stuff, so I'm.
00:17:54 Jill Monaco
Totally old school.
00:17:56 Jill Monaco
I guess I could highlight it on iPad but and then when I show up I always, I mean this is just practical stuff, right?
00:18:03 Jill Monaco
I show up early, but I hide. I try not to talk to people before I speak because my mind's just on that and.
00:18:09 Jill Monaco
I don't want.
00:18:10 Jill Monaco
People to feel like I'm ignoring them.
00:18:12 Jill Monaco
Or I don't?
00:18:12 Jill Monaco
Care, isn't it?
00:18:13 Jill Monaco
The worst someone comes up and they just.
00:18:15 Jill Monaco
Love you.
00:18:15 Jill Monaco
And they're like, Oh my gosh.
00:18:16 Jill Monaco
So good to me.
00:18:16 Jill Monaco
And you're like, and you're in a different mind space.
00:18:18 Speaker 3
Yeah, yeah.
00:18:21 Charles Clark
I feel you on that because like it's like I'm I want to be intentional with what I'm about to present.
00:18:29 Charles Clark
It's different for a lot of people.
00:18:30 Charles Clark
Some people can do alright.
00:18:31 Charles Clark
I'm a mingle and go ahead and shake some hands.
00:18:33 Charles Clark
Kiss some babies.
00:18:34 Charles Clark
But I prefer.
00:18:35 Charles Clark
I prefer your part you.
00:18:36 Charles Clark
Know where? Let me just.
00:18:38 Charles Clark
Go put me in this in this green room.
00:18:40 Charles Clark
Over here and I'll just relax.
00:18:43 Charles Clark
I don't want to do all the socializing, but after you, you got me for a good 15.
00:18:46 Jill Monaco
Oh 100%.
00:18:47 Jill Monaco
Yeah, after I'm, I'm all in.
00:18:50 Jill Monaco
In fact, I had a.
00:18:52 Jill Monaco
I had an event I spoke at and I hung out with the people.
00:18:55 Jill Monaco
It was a retreat weekend, so I was there all weekend and I had lunch with them and I hung out with them and I'm exhausted, right?
00:19:01 Jill Monaco
All I want to do is go to bed and after the event person was taking me back to the airport and they said we've never had Someone Like You that.
00:19:09 Jill Monaco
Actually didn't just get up.
00:19:10 Jill Monaco
Speak and.
00:19:11 Jill Monaco
Go hide again and you know.
00:19:13 Jill Monaco
And I appreciated that from her.
00:19:15 Jill Monaco
But I also understand those speakers that are like I've got to speak again the next day.
00:19:18 Jill Monaco
I need to recharge, right?
00:19:20
True, true.
00:19:20 Jill Monaco
So sometimes just communicating that to the event person, but I find if.
00:19:24 Jill Monaco
We're there to speak.
00:19:26 Jill Monaco
We're not just there to give a.
00:19:27 Jill Monaco
Message on the stage we're there to.
00:19:29 Jill Monaco
Serve people and it's an honor.
00:19:31 Jill Monaco
To be able to serve.
00:19:32 Jill Monaco
People, whether it's faith-based or not.
00:19:34 Jill Monaco
But and having some time to interact with people lets them helps them to see you're a real person.
00:19:40 Jill Monaco
They can connect to.
00:19:41 Jill Monaco
Your message because it's about.
00:19:43 Jill Monaco
Creating that loyalty and that community, really.
00:19:47 Jill Monaco
And that will open up other speaking gigs and other relationships that you may never have known that.
00:19:53 Jill Monaco
You needed, but you met at that.
00:19:55 Jill Monaco
Event so you never know who's in the audience so.
00:19:57 Charles Clark
I I like the fact that you said that the loyalty aspect, it's a that's a refreshing definite.
00:20:03 Charles Clark
Right.
00:20:03 Charles Clark
Because I think a lot of times we think that loyalty is just being there being committed into something, but loyalty is showing up differently, right?
00:20:14 Charles Clark
If I'm gonna do something, I'm gonna do it well.
00:20:17 Charles Clark
And I I was so impressed when I was flying home today with United Airlines shadow to United Airline.
00:20:23 Charles Clark
They don't get, they don't get paid for for me to mention that.
00:20:26 Charles Clark
But the thing that was very impressive about them, they were loyal, right?
00:20:31 Charles Clark
They got us to our destination.
00:20:32 Charles Clark
You know, the biggest thing in airlines is that they want people to have a safe flight.
00:20:37 Charles Clark
They want them to be safe, but they want above and beyond that with their loyalty.
00:20:42 Charles Clark
The captain?
00:20:43 Charles Clark
He went out of his.
00:20:44 Charles Clark
I don't know if you call it a cockpit.
00:20:45 Charles Clark
What do you what do?
00:20:46 Charles Clark
You call it but.
00:20:47 Speaker 3
Yeah, we talked with captains.
00:20:47 Charles Clark
Anyway, he went.
00:20:48 Charles Clark
He he went out, he grabbed the mic and I'm thinking he's getting ready to say something like this is going to be my last flight today.
00:20:56 Charles Clark
But all he all he really wanted to to to say that that day was the same thing that they say.
00:21:02 Charles Clark
When they're in the.
00:21:03 Charles Clark
Stop it.
00:21:03 Charles Clark
And that was hey guys, we we want to let you know we want to get you there safely.
00:21:07 Charles Clark
We're going to try to get you home and in 20 minutes a little earlier, and he shared about the the wind and and how it was going to be a a smooth flight.
00:21:16 Charles Clark
And I was like, who is this guy?
00:21:17 Charles Clark
Why, why am I getting this service like this?
00:21:20 Charles Clark
And then it it trickled all the way down.
00:21:22 Charles Clark
To the to the stewardess.
00:21:24 Charles Clark
They weren't just loyal.
00:21:25 Charles Clark
They didn't just ask if you wanted some.
00:21:27 Charles Clark
The freshman well, he knew me by name.
00:21:30 Charles Clark
He took the time to ask me.
00:21:32 Charles Clark
Clark, is there anything that you you you want?
00:21:34 Charles Clark
I I know this like first class treatment but but I I I felt like the presence of like yo this this is on a whole nother level.
00:21:37 Speaker 3
It is just.
00:21:47 Charles Clark
So when you shared that with me about.
00:21:50 Charles Clark
I'm not just putting on something on the stage, but I want to leave them something that is is memorable.
00:21:58 Charles Clark
My loyalty to them is to give them my best.
00:22:02 Charles Clark
That's beautiful.
00:22:03 Jill Monaco
And how can we go one step above?
00:22:05 Jill Monaco
And beyond other speakers that.
00:22:08 Jill Monaco
You've seen even big names like what's something you can do.
00:22:11 Jill Monaco
It doesn't have to be hanging out afterwards, but what can you do that special?
00:22:16 Jill Monaco
Because we're all made differently, right?
00:22:18 Charles Clark
Yeah, yeah.
00:22:18 Jill Monaco
So it's not like just mimicking how someone else makes people feel special because.
00:22:23 Jill Monaco
An imitation of somebody else is never as great as an authentic you so.
00:22:27 Charles Clark
Is that a quote right there?
00:22:30 Charles Clark
Tell me one more.
00:22:31 Charles Clark
Time, man, you got me fired up today.
00:22:34 Charles Clark
That's what I needed.
00:22:35 Jill Monaco
Yeah, like copycats.
00:22:38 Jill Monaco
There's nothing special about a copycat, but us being authentically us.
00:22:38 Speaker 3
Right.
00:22:42 Jill Monaco
That's original.
00:22:43 Jill Monaco
That's powerful.
00:22:44 Jill Monaco
We were each made to be powerful in our own sphere of influence.
00:22:48 Jill Monaco
And so if you're trying to be someone else, you won't be you, and you won't show up as you and you don't show up with your injuries and your past trauma and.
00:22:56 Jill Monaco
Your past victories, like all of that, makes me and more empathetic towards.
00:23:01 Jill Monaco
People why I love connect.
00:23:02 Jill Monaco
Testing why when I talk to somebody, I don't look at anyone else when I'm talking to them, I'm not looking.
00:23:08 Jill Monaco
For someone better.
00:23:09 Jill Monaco
That comes out of my own rejection in high school, when I was talking to someone and felt like, you know, they were not interested in talking to me.
00:23:16 Jill Monaco
So I turned that around when I talked to people.
00:23:18 Jill Monaco
I look them in the eye and I do not break eye contact, even if someone else comes up and I can tell, I can feel that.
00:23:23 Jill Monaco
Cousins, if someone else wanted to talk to.
00:23:25 Jill Monaco
Me, I might.
00:23:26 Jill Monaco
Tap them on the shoulder and say hey, give me.
00:23:28 Jill Monaco
A second you.
00:23:29 Jill Monaco
Know while I'm talking to this person.
00:23:31 Jill Monaco
And you know, if they're really trying to get.
00:23:33 Jill Monaco
My attention because otherwise you look rude.
00:23:34 Speaker 3
Right.
00:23:35 Jill Monaco
You know, like not acknowledging them, but.
00:23:38 Jill Monaco
Little things like.
00:23:39 Jill Monaco
That, you know, just it's important to me.
00:23:42 Jill Monaco
I want people to be seen and feel seen and known and loved, and that's one of my values, so I'm always looking for ways to do that uniquely in each each.
00:23:50
Yeah, I.
00:23:51 Charles Clark
Have you know and and just to to wrap up today, right.
00:23:56 Charles Clark
You talked about doing something uniquely.
00:23:59 Charles Clark
And that's what sets you apart from everybody else.
00:24:02 Charles Clark
You know from a from a business aspect of that.
00:24:05 Charles Clark
What was the thing that was so unique about about you when you first started, that you knew if I continue to do this, this is going to take me to the next level?
00:24:15 Charles Clark
I can see longevity and and really creating a business out of that.
00:24:19 Charles Clark
You know, I understand we got the impact that aspect of what we do, but without the income of it, we can't sustain it.
00:24:26 Charles Clark
We can't take care of ourselves alone, our families.
00:24:29 Charles Clark
So what?
00:24:30 Charles Clark
What's what was that for you?
00:24:32 Jill Monaco
It's such a good question.
00:24:34 Jill Monaco
The first thing that came to mind when you said that was the time I was speaking.
00:24:38 Jill Monaco
It was one of my first speaking opportunities and most of them from me in the beginning came out in networking, right people I knew and me saying, hey, I'm you know, trying to start this speaking thing, I feel called to it if you if you or anyone you know could.
00:24:52 Jill Monaco
Use a speaker.
00:24:53 Jill Monaco
Here's the topics I can talk on right?
00:24:55 Jill Monaco
So you have to start somewhere with what you have and.
00:24:57 Jill Monaco
What you know and then.
00:24:59 Jill Monaco
At that, at one of those first speaking gigs.
00:25:02 Jill Monaco
I felt really.
00:25:03 Jill Monaco
Drawn to this one person in the audience and.
00:25:05 Jill Monaco
I was speaking.
00:25:06 Jill Monaco
On a on you know a topic.
00:25:08 Jill Monaco
And I looked right at the person and I said you have the capability to do this.
00:25:13 Jill Monaco
What I'm saying this is for you.
00:25:15 Jill Monaco
And I let I let people be.
00:25:17 Jill Monaco
Highlighted for me in the.
00:25:18 Jill Monaco
Audience and I'll tell you what, and I don't.
00:25:21 Jill Monaco
It's not fake, you know.
00:25:22 Jill Monaco
I'm not doing anything strange.
00:25:25 Jill Monaco
Yeah, but afterwards that one person, I don't do it every time either.
00:25:28 Jill Monaco
Only when I feel.
00:25:30 Jill Monaco
And they'll come up to me and go.
00:25:31 Jill Monaco
That was that was exactly for me.
00:25:32 Jill Monaco
I needed it and it.
00:25:33 Jill Monaco
Took that person to the next level.
00:25:35 Charles Clark
Wow. Wow.
00:25:36 Jill Monaco
And it's also it's so it's helping people realize I haven't arrived just because I'm on the platform that you have greatness too.
00:25:44 Jill Monaco
And so how do you?
00:25:45 Jill Monaco
I think there's a lack of identity for people and feeling special.
00:25:48 Jill Monaco
And so whenever we can do that, it's powerful.
00:25:51 Jill Monaco
So that was the first thing that came to.
00:25:53 Jill Monaco
My mind that I think.
00:25:54 Jill Monaco
Has made me stand apart.
00:25:56 Jill Monaco
You know what from?
00:25:57 Jill Monaco
The feedback I.
00:25:57 Jill Monaco
Get, you know.
00:25:59 Jill Monaco
And then I I.
00:26:00 Jill Monaco
I don't know.
00:26:00 Jill Monaco
I say jokes.
00:26:01 Jill Monaco
All the time that were not planned.
00:26:03 Jill Monaco
And people just laugh at me.
00:26:04 Jill Monaco
So I think that kind of helps.
00:26:06 Jill Monaco
But so everyone listening, if I crack a joke while I'm speaking, it's cause I'm lost.
00:26:10 Jill Monaco
In my notes or I'm nervous.
00:26:13 Speaker 3
I'm not that clever.
00:26:15 Charles Clark
I I think that's the thing that that you again that sets you apart.
00:26:18 Charles Clark
You found something that helps you reset in that moment and also connect at the same time without taking the focus off of them, right.
00:26:31 Charles Clark
That's powerful.
00:26:31 Charles Clark
That's powerful.
00:26:32 Charles Clark
Before we go, I know we got a little.
00:26:35 Charles Clark
A couple more moments, but before we go, let the Thrive Tribe know where can we find?
00:26:40 Jill Monaco
Oh yeah, go to jillmonaco.com Monaco like the country Monaco. You can find my social media from there, and the different mentorships, or my book. Or, you know, at podcast, all those things.
00:26:53 Jill Monaco
Just start there.
00:26:58 Charles Clark
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